What makes a happy marriage Data shows the answer is changing

What makes a happy marriage Data shows the answer is changingWhat makes a happy marriage Data shows the answer is changingIn 1939, World War II was just beginning to ramp up, polyester was a dream that would not come to fruition for another two years, and both women and men agreed that a dependable character and emotional stability were the twofruchtwein important qualities in a marriage partner, that chastity was an absolute must, and that women needed good looks mora than intelligence. A lot has changed since then- mora wars, more synthetic materials, and,according to a 2013 study that tracked marriage expectations, a massive shift in expectations for our partners. Todays marriages are no longer about consistency and convenience. They are about mutual support and understanding. (Needless to say, things have gotten trickier.)Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreFortunately, data can help make sense of what may be the most complicated social issue most modern Americans face What is reasonable to expect from a marriage? Heres the data that demonstrates what makesa happy marriage, then and now.A Womans Happy Marriage Love And Good LooksThe 2013 studyexamined results from a survey that asked people what they seek in a spouse across several decades, dating back to 1939. The women of 1939 were largely preoccupied with maturity, emotional stability, and ambition, and ranked these as the three most important qualities in a man. Much of this has changed. In 1939, women ranked good looks as the 17th most important quality in a man, out of 18. That rank rose to a formidable 12 by 2008. Meanwhile, the importance of chastity plummeted from rank 10 to the very bottom, 18. Love, once considered only the fifth most important factor, had risen to number one.The same study suggests that the men of 1939 were not unlike the women of their time. Their top three priorities were a d ependable character, maturity, and a pleasing disposition. But over the decades this, too, shifted. Intelligence and sociability, qualities that men had ranked 11th and 12th in 1939, respectively, had risen to ranks 4 and 6 by 2008. The importance of finding a woman who was a good housekeeper or cookdecreased and the emphasis upon meeting someone with good financial prospects went up. As with women, the importance of chastity fell from rank 10 all the way down to rank 18, and love saw a resurgence.A Closer Look At Changes In ChastityThese shifts say something about how gender roles have changed over time. As women entered the workforce, finding an intelligent and sociable woman with good financial prospects has become a priority for men with changes in public perception of sexuality, perhaps women feel more comfortable in 2008 admitting that they, too, want a spouse that they find attractive. But one change that stands out is the de-emphasis upon not engaging in premarital sex. Chas tity has gone from a deal-breaker for many couples to a mere afterthought, in a few decades. And thats a good thing, too- because chastity itself is in decline.Data on premarital sex over timesuggests that men and women could afford to hang onto these biases even well into the 1970s, when more than 60 percent of women responded on surveys that they had been with one or no partners prior to marriage. In 2010, however, 73 percent of married women reported that they had two or more partners before they settled down. Only five percent were chaste.This article originally appeared on Fatherly.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will ersatzdarsteller your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people